one year ago.

A year ago [yesterday to be exact] Daniel was in an accident.

It was the end of the school year – our first day of freedom!  We had just enjoyed the first barbeque of the summer.  On the way home, Daniel decided he’d meet up with some friends who wanted to mess around on their skateboards.  I was pretty wiped out, and went straight to sleep.  Around 11pm I woke up and have [I don’t know how many] missed calls.  My phone rings again and I answer, still groggy from sleep, only to hear that there’s been an accident and Daniel is being rushed to the hospital.  I check my voicemail and hear my friend screaming that “there’s so much blood” and Daniel is in the ambulance on his way.
The medics called me in the midst of all these missed calls and voicemails and ask me for Daniel’s name and information and let me know to which hospital they are headed.
By this time I am no longer groggy, just in shock.  I didn’t know who to call – so I tweeted.  I know it seems strange, but being able to put it out there was somewhat comforting – “please be okay.”
When I arrived at the hospital I had to wait almost an hour before I was able to run back to the ER and see Daniel.  I was so frightened…I didn’t know what I would see.
I was finally granted access through the double doors, and there sits Daniel, wrapped in a sheet, covered in blood. Hair caked, beard caked, and his right eye was swelling quickly.  As I walked in, Daniel half smiled at me [the way he does when he’s just woken up] and said “I’m sorry.”  If I hadn’t been bawling already, that would have set me off.  Daniel had suffered a multitude of head injuries.
He fell backwards from his skateboard while he was going down a pretty steep hill.  There was a fracture on the back of his skull, air bubbles throughout his brain, fractured a bone in his ear, and had another hemorrhage in the front of his skull [causing the black eye].
Due to the nature of his head injuries, Daniel was throwing up profusely.  Once I was there, the ER resident shoved a few barf bags into my hands and told me this was my job now.  I think the hardest part for me – the part where I almost fainted – was when the residents had to put a tube through Daniel’s mouth and into his stomach to keep him from throwing up.  I paced around to keep from falling over.
It was probably around 1am at this point.  Luckily there was an amazingly sweet woman whose son was in a motorcycle accident in the bed next to Daniel’s.  She gave me the best hugs as I stood there by myself…freaking out.
While I was in the waiting room I called Daniel’s parents and sister.  They arrived around 3am and we all took turns going in to see him.  Daniel spent about 12 hours in the ER before they moved him into the neural ICU.  I documented the 17 days Daniel was hospitalized on my old blog.
The worst part was the night Daniel forgot who I was.  At first I thought he was joking because he kept messing with people in that manner…but he referred to me as “little girl” for a couple hours…when he finally winked at me from his bed a few hours later, I was relieved.
THIS is the first entry I made, and the second, which offers more detail about the injuries [if you are interested in reading on, just hit “next” at the bottom of each page].
Head injuries are so up in the air.  We were constantly frustrated with the one step forward two steps back of the whole situation.  Thank GOODNESS Daniel ended up being alright….after so much suffering.  It’s been a year, and it seems like Daniel’s hearing is almost 100% [he lost a LOT of hearing in his right ear].  The only thing he notices sometimes is he doesn’t remember some things from the past.
I love Daniel so very much and am so thankful that he survived such an insane head injury.  I am so paranoid this time of year….
Sorry if I creeped y’all out – since about April I can’t stop thinking about what happened on June 7th, 2009.

EDIT/// Since this post went up, the blog with updates about Daniel’s health has been taken down.

roxy

17 Comments

  1. Wow roxy, what a story. That was one freaky accident. I'm so glad to hear he is doing much better and I hope he'll continue to get even better.

  2. I'm so glad he's ok!! Thanks for sharing this with us. I want my boyfriend, who is an avid cyclist to read this. Maybe he will be more willing to wear a helmet. I keep telling him they're not just for little kids.

  3. I'm sooo glad he is ok!!! What a scary thing that must have been to go thru! xoxo

  4. My favorite was when we finally got to clean him up and he said he felt like a monkey while we were trying to get all the blood from his hair and beard. šŸ™‚ Or how paranoid he was about chicken being slipped in his broth because your mom did that to him!

  5. wow girl! i couldnt imagine watching my boyfriend go through something like that! i wouldve died! so happy he recovered so well and its all in the past!

  6. oh my gosh that is scary. I'm glad he's okay. I can't imagine going through something like that.

    Thera

  7. oh wow. I am so happy that he is okay! I can't imagine going through that. That woman in the room giving you hugs was a special person comforting you

    x0 Laura

  8. i'm so glad everything turned out well.
    that would be so scary.
    i can't even imagine going through something like that.
    you're both such strong people!

  9. thank you ladies very much for your kind words! i meant to remove the comment section because i didn't want it to seem like i made this post because i was looking for sympathy or whathaveyou. but in my rush to get to work i forgot to take the action. i'm glad i forgot – you guys are so nice!! šŸ˜€ your wonderful comments made my day. especially since writing this made me a bit emo for the day!
    and traci – that was definitely a funny moment. i think daniel's almost constant smile [up until those last few days…haha] and cheery/jokey nature helped us all through it. haha šŸ™‚

  10. How awful for both of you! I am glad that he is doing so well. It was so sweet that the woman kept giving you hugs. I bet she needed them too and it was great that you were there for each other.

  11. Wow, what a shocking story! Fortunately he is ok now! You two look so cute together on that photo!

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